I stopped talking to them. They only come around when it benefits them, when you need them they are nowhere to be found. We are not planning on shutting down r/AskReddit , as other subreddits have been doing, because we think that continuing to … But you never did. I've never in my life wanted lettering on me in any way, my tattoos all have small meanings but he never asked what they were. He is legitimately the only bf I've had that made me feel good about myself and would actually listen and I was genuinely in love with him but do the toxicity was just too much at times. Legit got mad at me when I got a grief seed tattoo over my self harm scars. Good god, this hit me like a train wreck. 15 Signs a Person is Toxic to Your Life 1. I really want to help her... Pls if anyone has any suggestion on what to do then pls reply. He always manages to have her by his side but also tortures her mentally the whole time. Some people grew up in toxic families. She didnt know what to do and could not make a decision. I definitely did not feel like she was there for me in the way I was for her, and especially after representing her work for all over town and spending hours and hours and hours selling her work/transporting it/taking time off of my own work and projects she couldn't even help me for less than an hour. They ask for advice but then ignore it and continue to complain about things. 5 Ways To Avoid Toxic Relationships and Find Meaningful Ones Tip 1: How do you feel when you are with them? Realizing you’re acting toxic is just the beginning. Hope they helped in one way or another. You were the most loyal person, and you are so caring, and passionate, and he was just scared that he wasn’t enough. Later that month she went on a vacation with her. You’re going to act out old habits and make a muck of things. This was a really stressful time for me as i was still doing fulltime schooling and fulltime work. She came back and told me that she was leaving him but told me that they has slept together during that time. Trigger warning and some self harm continue at your own will. And when I found people like these, all that happened was an ending of me crying myself to sleep, same story different guy. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. I have told my wife that I don't really like her making negative comments about me to her family as this is going to impact my relationship with them, and she now holds it against me that she can't talk to anybody when she needs advice, which I never said - I just told her saying negative things about me to her sister then expecting us to have a positive relationship seems counterintuitive. When you do something for them they don't really appreciate it or they ask for more. They try to convince you that you are the problem. I was down and everything that year started to hit me. Those who are outsiders, like other family members, have ALWAYS and I mean always supported her and tried to help her out of it. … Have i been in an adversarial relationship for so long that, when something good comes along my mind is like the hell is this? May I ask. I received a text from him at one in the morning saying I’m sorry I’m sorry it happened again but I’m the backseat once again I questioned what happened he then told me that he screwed his ex in the backseat of her car at her house and in her kitchen all in one night then I forgave him one last time again nothing happened for a little then he became demanding and verbally abusive I became numb and I started cutting myself i confronted him but he didn’t care he said his ex is better and that I need to lose weight ect. The remaining 0.1% isn't necessarily doubt, it's just the best way I can describe being trusting, just not to the point of drinking the Kool-Aid if it is obvious what is in it. We walked around a mall then went to this park to eat. Four months into our relationship he revealed that he was still in touch with his ex and hung out with her I warned him that something would happen and to not hang out with her anymore but he didn’t listen. Her ex husband basically has been brainwashing his own children and manipulating them to do this. I never wanted to cause so much pain for her to harm herself. But honestly I felt nothing. Not only is this is classic deflecting (trying to hide from any accusation of wrongdoing by responding with a counter-accusation), but it's an emotional drain to be in a relationship who is is always dwelling on the worst things that have happened in your relationship and constantly bringing them up when they feel defensive. Then I look and see "Master Baker" and I immediately know...Diablo165. So I was in a pretty toxic relationship with this guy I was head over heals for he was kind for a little then he begun expecting from me I thought it was normal and gave in (I regret it) I never really thought much about it cause I was so trusting and blinded by well love or something like that. She really put a bad taste in my mouth about dating and for months I took it personally and really thought there was something wrong about me. He didn't understand why I hadn't even considered getting his name tattooed....like what? This is a great list. They knew I'm a fairly chill person and the stuff I was putting up with wasn't normal/acceptable. Was looking for a way to make it end when the other person did the honors for me. Her oldest daughter now has behaviour problems - i know this because I have talked with her(my cousin basically) I dont believe this whole situation. What I experienced was a repeated pattern where they'd do something/say something just .... not good. When you call them on something shitty that they did, they say, "Well, at least I didn't..." and then bring up something that you did that hurt them in the past, when a conversation about something they said last night becomes a conversation about something that you did wrong two years ago. Relationships take hard work; we’ve all heard it before. Dropping “Hints” and Other Passive-Aggression. She was working two jobs and i was doing full time school and full time work. But we decided to stay together and work things out. He could never have been the person you deserved, so he made you think you deserved the person he was. I have always kept things in because i just felt like no one really cared enough about my feelings. [1] If someone is from a family such as this, perhaps they will not even recognize if and when they are in a toxic relationship. It started out wonderful but has been rocky the rest of the way. I recently broke up with my bf of 1 year. On the flip side, trying to always resolve every single issue in your relationship … Because he wasn’t. Things were never the same but i loved her and we stuck it out. So i decided to put my feelings aside and apologized. She confronted me and i told her everything. Whether it’s between parents or between the parent(s) and children, it’s still an unhealthy and toxic environment to grow up in. All my aunt tells us is that the protection order only lasts for two weeks. Sometimes, you just need help or someone to listen to you. There were always red flags but they were the weirdest things ever, not classic red flag I guess? 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